Advice, Motivation

We all have lows

Sometimes I get overwhelmed. Whether it be because I have too much going on, I’m not getting enough sleep or I’m stuck in a rut. I get overwhelmed and I get frustrated with life.

There have been times when I just sit there and think “This is it? This is what life is?” Working 40-hour weeks, rushing around on the weekends and really actually enjoying only 30% of your life.

I hit these overwhelming points in my life, points that I consider “low,” and I don’t know where to go from there. I just sulk.

The lows

When you’re feeling low, it’s hard to snap back into reality. You’re viewing life from a peephole instead of looking at the big picture. (And heck, sometimes the big picture doesn’t seem that great either.)

Some people might say that during these times you should shove your thoughts to the side and remind yourself of all the high points that are to come, and while I would agree with the latter part of that, I think it’s important to first let yourself feel low.

When you push your feelings to the side and put on a happy face you will never (Seriously, never) feel whole. There will always be that small part of you that feels low, even when you’re happy. Understand that you’re feeling the way you feel, then go from there.

Addressing your lowness

When you’re in the midst of addressing your lowness (Is that a word?) you may not only feel sad, but you may also feel alone. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the feeling of “Why am I like this?” or “This can’t be normal.” Remember that you’re feeling this way for a reason and it is 100% normal.

Let me give you a personal example (Which literally happened two days ago).

Although I’m considered an “introvert” (This will be a discussion for another day, perhaps next week) I’ve always had difficulties being home alone. Maybe it’s because I come from a large family, so people have always been around. Who knows? Regardless, it has been sensitive thing for me.

Well, my boyfriend and I recently moved into our house, and I’d be lying if I didn’t say that being home alone was at the top of my mind. I can handle it, but it makes me uneasy, and typical Julia took these feelings and turned them into a whirlwind of emotions.

I was upset with myself. How am I not able to be home alone? Why does this feel so strange? How am I ever going to get over this? Will I feel like this forever?

Long story short: the answers were 1) Because I’m not used to it, 2) Because I’m not used to it, 3) By getting used to it and 4) No, I’ll get used to it. I didn’t get these answers by sitting there and coming up with them. I got them by turning to the one thing that I can always count on to answer my questions: Google.

I literally Googled “How to adjust to living alone,” and got thousands of responses. I clicked on one of the first results and instantly felt better. Sometimes you just need reassurance that what you’re feeling is normal and others have felt the exact same way.

You’re not alone

Every single person goes through these low periods, and, more often than not, there is someone who has experienced the same reasoning for their lowness (I really hope that’s a word) as you. Remember this next time you feel low.

Reach out to someone to see if they have been in a similar situation as you. Do what I did and turn to Google to answer your questions. Come to my blog and read some of my thoughts (I have experienced all the feels).

Whatever you’re feeling is temporary. Always. (That goes for happiness to, but, again, that will be a conversation for another day). This low point will be followed by high points, which will be followed by more low points and high points.

Whenever you’re facing a low point in life, remember this:

  1. It’s okay to feel sad. Acknowledge this feeling and know it can be changed.
  2. You’re not alone. Seriously, if you don’t want to talk to anyone about it, turn to Google. You will be amazed how many people have felt what you’re feeling.
  3. Things will get better. The best part about the lows is that you can only go up from here.

Life changes and sometimes those changes send us into a frenzy, which can lead to a low point in life. The good news is that you’re resilient and you can adapt to change, and if you end up not being able to, the better news is that life is constantly changing.

Hold tight and remember that there is always someone out there who knows how you are feeling, and nine times out of 10, they’re happy to guide you through it. (I’m happy to 10 times out of 10.)




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